Misconception? Hmmm... I feel like this doesn't apply to me so much, since I am over forty, have had a long term relationship and we happen to have children together. I've been single for five years now. I know my self worth, most of the time, and I know what I want in a man.
Although, now that I am over forty, I suppose I would be considered a cougar. Out on the prowl, stalking prey because I am in my prime and the fellas my age can't hang with my hotness... Yeah, no. I don't much care for boys. I will only date men who are close to my age. Believe me when I say, those guys can keep up, if you find the right one.
Also, I should be going out and partying and reliving my youth. Fortunately for me, I'm a responsible mother and am busy either working or carting my kids here and there. I'm not much of a drinker. I don't really enjoy going clubbing or bar hopping. When I do go out, I enjoy going to bar or lounge and just talking with my friends. I enjoy just hanging out. I love go out dancing every now and then. I am not super exciting when it comes to being single. Yet, I am always doing something. It may not be glamorous or super exciting but I truly am loving my life.
I think if you are single, relish being single. Get to know yourself. Love yourself. Appreciate your alone time. Being "alone" gives us the opportunity to think and contemplate our lives. It's not easy reflecting on our past mistakes or worring about the future. The future isn't here yet and the past has already happened. Take the lessons you learned and keep moving forward. There is no wrong way to be single nor is there a right way. It's just being single. Why try to label it and make assumptions about it. Go out and live!! If someone is telling us how we need to behave, they can suck it. We all live our lives the best way we know how.
I must say, that being in my relationship wasn't a picnic. I know many couples who struggle and I know many who are super happy. I haven't an inkling of what a perfect relationship should be. I don't wish my coupled friends were single, unless their relationship is as god awful as mine was. Then I would offer my support, of course. Why do we need to judge or have expectations of how one should live? Unless it's our own children, then by all means, please guide, jugde and have your expectations!!! Why don't we all just mind our own business and worry about ourselves and then maybe, just maybe, we can be stoked and live happy lives!!
Also, I should be going out and partying and reliving my youth. Fortunately for me, I'm a responsible mother and am busy either working or carting my kids here and there. I'm not much of a drinker. I don't really enjoy going clubbing or bar hopping. When I do go out, I enjoy going to bar or lounge and just talking with my friends. I enjoy just hanging out. I love go out dancing every now and then. I am not super exciting when it comes to being single. Yet, I am always doing something. It may not be glamorous or super exciting but I truly am loving my life.
I think if you are single, relish being single. Get to know yourself. Love yourself. Appreciate your alone time. Being "alone" gives us the opportunity to think and contemplate our lives. It's not easy reflecting on our past mistakes or worring about the future. The future isn't here yet and the past has already happened. Take the lessons you learned and keep moving forward. There is no wrong way to be single nor is there a right way. It's just being single. Why try to label it and make assumptions about it. Go out and live!! If someone is telling us how we need to behave, they can suck it. We all live our lives the best way we know how.
I must say, that being in my relationship wasn't a picnic. I know many couples who struggle and I know many who are super happy. I haven't an inkling of what a perfect relationship should be. I don't wish my coupled friends were single, unless their relationship is as god awful as mine was. Then I would offer my support, of course. Why do we need to judge or have expectations of how one should live? Unless it's our own children, then by all means, please guide, jugde and have your expectations!!! Why don't we all just mind our own business and worry about ourselves and then maybe, just maybe, we can be stoked and live happy lives!!
