I am racking my brain on this particular question. I had to sit and contemplate about a single moment on why being single as really awesome. It's not like I started going out and partying like I did when I was in my 20's. I am over forty and have two teenagers. I get home and I whip off my bra with a grateful sigh, I take off my shoes and put on my fuzzy slippers and sometimes, depending on what I'm wearing, I put on my pj's. I live a very glamorous life, dontcha know... Ha!! I was talking with my friend Moshe this morning about how hard it is for me to go out once I get home from my long day of carting my kids around and work.
I think the day I remember the most for being an awesome day of being single was July 5, 2010... Nice specific date, right?!
It was the day I became single after a tumultuous fourteen year relationship with my childrens father. I guess technically it wasn't that day, but it was the last day of living in the house we shared. He pretty much stopped coming home eight or nine months prior. It was great. He was never present physically, mentally and emotionally, in our relationship and family anyways. I wasn't even upset that he was having an affair. I was super stoked that I had the place to myself with my kids. I had grown accustomed to being on our own. I learned to just do things on our own. But there he was always there, somewhere, doing whatever it was.
During those fourteen years of unwedded "bliss" I learned to supress my emotions. I tried not to cry or to show any vulnerability whatsoever. Now... I cry just reading a headline. My son always catches me before. "Are you going to cry now mom? Go ahead, let it all out." I feel like a great big black cloud has been lifted from me. I'm not saying it's been easy but it's way easier than it was before.
I had made a point of not rushing into another relationship, like many folks do. I wanted to take the time to heal and grow. It took about two years to work through my pain. Yes, even though I was unhappy in that relationship, I mourned it. I felt like I had failed. I really wanted my happily ever after. I am not bitter or angry. I grew in so many ways during that time. It was a rollercoaster every single day. I not only got two beautiful children out of it, I was given two lovely step sons and an entire family of in-laws. I've always wanted a big family and I got it. I even consider my step sons mom and her family my in-laws. LOL!! I love them all dearly.
I really want to experience my happily ever after but I gotta say, being single isn't all that bad. I now know what I want in a partner. I now know my self worth. It took me a long time to get here. I am a late bloomer and I know my time is coming. I'm a pretty patient lady and I know that my time will come soon enough.
It was the day I became single after a tumultuous fourteen year relationship with my childrens father. I guess technically it wasn't that day, but it was the last day of living in the house we shared. He pretty much stopped coming home eight or nine months prior. It was great. He was never present physically, mentally and emotionally, in our relationship and family anyways. I wasn't even upset that he was having an affair. I was super stoked that I had the place to myself with my kids. I had grown accustomed to being on our own. I learned to just do things on our own. But there he was always there, somewhere, doing whatever it was.
During those fourteen years of unwedded "bliss" I learned to supress my emotions. I tried not to cry or to show any vulnerability whatsoever. Now... I cry just reading a headline. My son always catches me before. "Are you going to cry now mom? Go ahead, let it all out." I feel like a great big black cloud has been lifted from me. I'm not saying it's been easy but it's way easier than it was before.
I had made a point of not rushing into another relationship, like many folks do. I wanted to take the time to heal and grow. It took about two years to work through my pain. Yes, even though I was unhappy in that relationship, I mourned it. I felt like I had failed. I really wanted my happily ever after. I am not bitter or angry. I grew in so many ways during that time. It was a rollercoaster every single day. I not only got two beautiful children out of it, I was given two lovely step sons and an entire family of in-laws. I've always wanted a big family and I got it. I even consider my step sons mom and her family my in-laws. LOL!! I love them all dearly.
I really want to experience my happily ever after but I gotta say, being single isn't all that bad. I now know what I want in a partner. I now know my self worth. It took me a long time to get here. I am a late bloomer and I know my time is coming. I'm a pretty patient lady and I know that my time will come soon enough.
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